It has not been shown that we marry to make up for a personal deficit, or that we pick partners who balance for some personally perceived deficiency. It is true, however, that our most remarkable (at least in our own eyes) personality deficit influences our bonding.
“I’ve never seen myself as particularly smart, I guess. Just about average,” said a husband. “I’d steer away from real bright people, people with book knowledge. I know my wife is much smarter than I am, but I offer her other things, like steadiness, reliability.”
Our selection of partner may not be determined by our perceived deficits, but you can see in this man’s description that specific areas of experienced inferiority can act themselves out within our relationships.
“I’m not beautiful, but I am smart,” reported one wife. “My husband is beautiful but not too bright. Together, we make a beautifully intelligent marriage.”
Think about your own deficit area on your love map and consider how this may influence your interaction with your spouse.
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Following this, there is a stage of exhaustion where the person goes into a deep sleep for seconds, minutes, or rarely, hours. Sometimes a state of confusion exists for a short time and while conscious he is unaware of his surroundings. He then recovers and can carry on with his normal activities.
The brain is a hive of electrical activity as the cells communicate with each other. An epileptic fit is like an electrical explosion, which sets off a chain of uncontrolled electrical activity. The triggering mechanism may arise in a scar in the brain tissue from an injury or an operation.
Almost all epileptics can have their disorder brought under control and most can lead normal lives, studying, working, marrying and having children. The greatest problem faced by most epileptics is the ignorance and fears of society.
A generalised fit is a frightening thing when seen for the first time. Few people know how to handle such an emergency and their ignorance and fear leads them to shun the sufferer.
Old prejudices die hard and epileptics are often thought to be mentally dull, unduly violent or anti-social. These generalisations are not true.
Many employers are hesitant to give jobs to those who have this disorder, yet their accident or absentee rate is no higher than others.
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Let’s see how close we could get to this for, say, lung cancer. Screening tests we could consider are sputum cytology, X-rays and bronchoscopy. Sputum cytology is simple, safe and convenient for the patient. However, each specimen takes quite a few minutes to examine thoroughly and this must be done by a specially trained technician, so it is not cheap. There are false negatives— not all cancers shed cells into the sputum to be coughed up. Some do so erratically—there may be no cancer cells in the specimen that goes to the laboratory even if there were the day before and the day after. False positives are rare but occasionally other abnormal cells are mistaken for cancer cells. The test can pick up very tiny cancers at a stage when surgical removal would have a good chance of curing the patient. To pick up very early cancers, specimens would have to be examined every few months, which obviously would make it extremely expensive in the long run. Another problem occurs if the cancer is so small that it can’t be seen on X-ray. It then has to be located by bronchoscopy or special types of X-ray before it is possible to go ahead with surgical removal.
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Tests that allow us to ‘see’ the liver are not necessary in every person with cancer. They are usually only recommended when there are clues from symptoms, clinical examinations or blood tests that there is liver abnormality. A radionuclide liver scan shows us the size of the liver and whether there are any areas in it that are not functioning normally. Normal X-rays do not show up the liver. A CT scan does and it may also pick up cancer deposits as they let through less X-rays than the normal liver. In some cases, the combination of symptoms, clinical findings, blood tests and scans build up a picture so typical of liver secondaries that a biopsy for conclusive proof may not be recommended. However, when there is something unusual or unexpected about the situation, or when it is very important to be quite certain, a liver biopsy should be considered.
This can be done with a special type of needle through the skin, under local anaesthetic. Because the liver moves up and down as you breathe, it is important to try hard to hold your breath when the doctor asks you to. Before doing a liver biopsy, your doctor should make quite sure that your blood can clot normally. If not, injections can be given to correct this. Even so, it is possible to bleed internally after a liver biopsy. This is unusual, but has to be watched for carefully. After the biopsy you will be kept lying still for some hours while the tiny hole in the liver seals over. During this time your pulse rate and blood pressure should be checked regularly. The main danger of bleeding is right after the biopsy. Sometimes transfusion is necessary. Very rarely, an operation is needed to stop the bleeding.
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Many children develop a habit, spasm or tic which involves movements which are fast, sudden, unexpected and serve no purpose. The child appears to have no control over them.
The movements can include blinking, twitching of the nose or shrugging of the shoulders. Most of these habits spasms are minor and seem to disappear after several months.
However, in some children these tics are both severe and prolonged. They can involve grunting, throat-clearing and occasionally, uttering obscene words. Sometimes these children repeatedly touch themselves or others in the genital area or on the breast.
This bizarre behavior is extremely distressing to the child suffering from the problem and also to his parents. It is called the Tourette syndrome.
The cause is unknown, it is three times more common in boys than girls and there is some family tendency to it. Onset is usually before the age of 15.
Not all cases of mild habit spasms or tics can properly be labelled the Tourette syndrome, but those who have verbal spasms, particularly the uttering of obscene words, are diagnosed under this classification.
Sometimes children grow out of this, sometimes it persists. Fortunately one of the major tranquillising drugs, haloperidol, has proved of great value in treating this disorder.
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There is no way at present to distinguish between individuals who will or will not develop an eating disorder subsequent to dieting. There is also no way to identify who will or will not be damaged by repeated weight cycling. It is uncertain whether some people will need constant support and monitoring to maintain fat loss. It may be that a different approach needs to be taken for people with a food dependence from the traditional approaches used in behavioural and self-management practice.
A further model for eating disorders has been proposed with reference to obesity and non-purging bulimia, which suggests that repeated cycles of dieting and regaining weight lead to food dependence.” Dependence is defined as ‘the failure to stop using a substance that is deleterious to health and where use results in short term mood alteration’. In this model, food (specifically those foods which are reserved for bingeing episodes) becomes a psychoactive substance. In common with other psychoactive addictions it has the following characteristics:
• food is used in larger amounts, or for longer periods than the person intended
• there is a persistent desire or effort to cut down or control intakes
• there are ‘withdrawal’ symptoms—cravings, anxiety, tension, depression—when the food is not available.
Obese and bulimic clients frequently report bingeing in response to stress, frustration, rejection or other negative emotional states, and it seems likely that both uncontrolled eating and the kinds of food used (high carbohydrate/fat) act synergistically to lower the internal arousal state. Few of these clients are able to activate behavioural self-management techniques at these times.
This presents the fat loss counsellor with a major dilemma; on the one hand is the desire to encourage healthy weight loss, but on the other is the concern about encouraging restrictive eating disorders. Unless the counsellor turns away a client, leaving them at the mercy of someone less scrupulous, they have a responsibility to be helpful, and above all, to do no harm. The following are some guidelines for counsellors, based on this ‘do-no-harm’ principle:
Myth-information. Tai Chi, the ancient Chinese art of movement, is a form of relaxation which may, indirectly, have an effect on nervous eating and thereby improve body fat levels. The physical component of Tai Chi alone, however, is not sufficient to create a significant energy deficit.
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Carbohydrate is a part of food. Starch is a carbohydrate, so too are sugars and certain types of fibre. Starches are nature’s reserves created by energy from the sun, carbon dioxide and water. The building block of starch is glucose, a single sugar.
The simplest form of carbohydrate is a single sugar molecule. Chemically, this sugar molecule is known as a monosaccharide (mono meaning one, saccharide meaning sweet). Glucose is a single sugar molecule which occurs in foods and is the most common source of fuel for the cells of the human body.
If two sugar molecules are joined together, the result is a di-saccharide (di meaning two). Sucrose, or common table sugar, is a disaccharide.
Starches are long chains of sugar molecules joined together like the beads in a string of pearls. They are called polysaccharides (poly meaning many). Starches are not sweet to taste.
Dietary fibres also have a complex structure, containing many different sorts of sugar molecules. They are different from starches and sugars in that they are not broken down by human digestive enzymes. Fibre reaches the large intestine without change. Once there, bacteria begin to ferment and break down the fibres.
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You may say, “I already suffer enough pain. What good can it do to inflict more pain?” I have asked you to go along with me in these ideas, and I must ask you to go along with me in this. Yes, you are suffering pain. In suffering pain in the way that you do, you are having an experience of suffering uncontrolled pain, pain that you can do nothing about. Perhaps it is better to say that your mind is having an experience of pain which it can do nothing about. Now, what I want to do is to give your mind a different kind of experience—an experience of pain which it can do something about, of pain which it can control. This new experience will give your mind a basis from which to work. In this first experiment it does not matter if the pain is very slight. The thing that matters is the new experience of the mind in being able to control it.
Inflicting Pain on Oneself-There is no doubt that these exercises in pain would be easier if I were there to inflict the painful stimulus on you for the first time, rather than you having to do it to yourself. But if you will just make a start, you will find that you can do it quite easily.
Instead of inflicting pain on the patient, I sometimes do it to myself while the patient is watching, and then ask him to do it to himself. So now, although I am not there with you, you can let yourself feel that I have just done it, quite easily and naturally. I was completely relaxed. There was nothing complicated about it. Now it is your turn.
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Dark signs—grey to dark wisps, clouds or lines—also testify to an under-function or weakness of the affected sexual organs. Small black points, or grey-black indented marks, are signs for sclerosis, i.e. enlargement. These signs are especially found in the area for prostate gland.
Iris signs in conditions of the female sexual organs: One finds:
i. Ovary: right iris 35′ and left iris 25′—in the third major zone,
ii. Uterus: right iris 25′—in the second major zone,
iii. Vagina: right iris 25′-28′—in the third major zone.
The ovaries, as with the testicles in man, have close connections with the fore-brain. In case of inflammation-signs in the area for ovary (white signs), one often finds similar signs in the opposite brain area. The same may occur with the dark signs of under-activity, where we often find the so-called Brain-Ovary line. The appearance of this line always indicates disturbance of the sex life with effects upon the cerebrum and mind. Patients with such signs are depressed and oppressed.
In this connection, one should refer to the hypotrophic state and deficient development of the internal and external sex organs in both sexes. This condition may be presumed when one finds a patient with short flat finger-nails. In such cases, the deficient development of the ovary affects the nerve life of the fore-brain, giving rise to the following symptoms:
Frontal headache, giddiness, disturbance from exposure to the sun, travel sickness, sense of pressure from headwear, bitten finger-nails and enuresis in children.
All these symptoms can be confirmed, either singly or in association, in persons with flat short finger-nails. Short nails frequently recede behind the fingertips, especially when they are continuously bitten off or torn off. This is pathological, and no child should be punished for the condition. Headaches cease after the menopause. Furthermore, it is found with especially small nails that there are small dimunitive nipples with deficient lactation in childbirth. On the other hand, nature makes up for these deficiencies by giving an easy normal digestion, so that these persons are seldom thin. Usually, they are of a simple homely disposition, a probable consequence of the influenced cerebral function.
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PRESSURE GROUP TACTICS
You and your friends may well have worked out that a change of school policy would help a lot of you cope more easily with the difficult business of being a woman and a schoolgirl at the same time. You might want to persuade the Head to allow you to wear trousers, for example, or to permit you to stay inside in the warm at break and lunchtimes; to opt out of games or to convert an unused space into a rest room or a sick bay; or to persuade the staff to give you a week’s notice of homework so that you can plan your lives. One or two of you may have made tentative approaches about it and been turned down, so you could be thinking of forming a pressure group. If you are, remember that there are rules to the game and you are more likely to succeed if you follow them.
Start by involving as many of your parents as you can. Parents are far more influential than they realize. Then try to involve the seniors as well. Half the girls in the fifth form have far more impact than two lone second formers. Assume that the Head and his/her staff will agree with what you say and be sympathetic. Most of them will be, eventually, and those who aren’t will find it more difficult to refuse you if you approach them confidently and politely and obviously expecting a favourable answer. If you are thinking of a petition, take great care with the wording. Get parents to help you. And if you are using a spokeswoman, make sure you send her to plead for you at the right time in her month. Last but not least, try not to look too fierce! A smile gets results much quicker than a scowl. Good luck!
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