It has not been shown that we marry to make up for a personal deficit, or that we pick partners who balance for some personally perceived deficiency. It is true, however, that our most remarkable (at least in our own eyes) personality deficit influences our bonding.
“I’ve never seen myself as particularly smart, I guess. Just about average,” said a husband. “I’d steer away from real bright people, people with book knowledge. I know my wife is much smarter than I am, but I offer her other things, like steadiness, reliability.”
Our selection of partner may not be determined by our perceived deficits, but you can see in this man’s description that specific areas of experienced inferiority can act themselves out within our relationships.
“I’m not beautiful, but I am smart,” reported one wife. “My husband is beautiful but not too bright. Together, we make a beautifully intelligent marriage.”
Think about your own deficit area on your love map and consider how this may influence your interaction with your spouse.
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